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Writer's pictureMonica Harris

Will Smith's Oscar Smack Says a Lot About Privilege in America

Updated: Oct 5, 2022

When a wealthy black man commits an act of violence in front of millions of people, his punishment is limited to light shaming


What happened at the Academy Awards on Sunday speaks to so much that’s going on in America now on so many levels. I can’t even begin to cover all these levels in a single post, so I’m just going to hit the highlights.


In case you don’t know what went down on Oscar night: before presenting the award for best documentary, Chris Rock cracked a joke about Jada Pinkett Smith’s lack of hair, insinuating that she was preparing for a G.I. Jane sequel (unbeknownst to Rock, Pinkett Smith is currently waging a battle with alopecia).


It was a completely tasteless and insensitive quip, and Pinkett Smith’s husband, Will Smith, didn’t take kindly to it. Seconds after the joke landed, he marched onstage and smacked Rock in the face — hard — in front of millions of people, all around the world.


But it didn’t end there. After Smith returned to his seat, Rock attempted to defend himself: “Wow, dude. It was just a G.I. Jane joke.” To which Smith replied by yelling: “Keep my wife’s name out your f — king mouth.”


I’ll lead with the obvious.


For centuries, blacks have struggled against stereotypes and the racism those stereotypes perpetuate. We’ve spent decades trying to get white people to understand that being black is not synonymous with being violent and that we’re as well-equipped as white people to use our words (not our fists) to resolve conflicts. Chronic poverty and other by-products of systemic racism often make it challenging for us to overcome these stereotypes, but we’ve always looked to accomplished black men and women as examples of who we can be, if given the opportunity.


Smith was once one of those people. But at this year’s Oscar ceremony, he undermined our effort in a disturbing and horribly tragic way that’s almost Shakespearean.


For any quasi-racist white person who might have been on the fence about whether black people are violent by nature, Smith’s outburst gave them reason to ask the question every black person shudders to hear: If even Will Smith does something like this, does that mean the stereotype is true?


As a black woman who’s moved between black and white America all my life, I can tell you the stereotype is unequivocally false. Black people aren’t inherently violent; we’re not more prone to aggression than anyone else. But I’m not going to lie about the optics of Smith’s Oscar smack; they’re bad. They’re really bad.


Of course, the fact that black people are even in the position of having to overcome racist branding is distressing and unfair. It’s the cold, hard reality of a legacy of slavery that’s still with us. But the best way to overcome the expectation that you’re violent and aggressive is to defy it. While this may be extremely difficult for young black men born into poverty and surrounded by crime and drug addiction, it should be effortless for a man who was smart enough to be admitted to a pre-engineering summer program at M.I.T. and is worth $350 million.


But I think last night’s episode showed us something else that’s going on in America, beyond racial stereotyping. We don’t want to talk about it because it’s awkward, but it needs to be said. Although we can’t know with certainty what the fallout will be from Smith’s Oscar smack, based on Hollywood’s reaction so far, I think it’s unlikely his career will become a dumpster fire. Why? Because Smith enjoys racial privilege.


The idea that a black person can benefit from racial privilege may sound heretical and even counter-intuitive, but I believe it’s real. Keep in mind that privilege doesn’t always equate to higher socio-economic status or greater respect from law enforcement, courts, or other institutions. Sometimes privilege means having the freedom to behave a certain way without blowback, or the ability to offend or abuse other members of our community with relative impunity. Let's call it intra-racial privilege. Although most black people don't like to acknowledge this privilege, we clearly benefit from it.


The “N” word is a perfect example. If anyone other than a black person dares to utter, whisper, or write the word, they’ll be shamed and “cancelled” in the worst possible way. Yet black people can use the “N” word any way we choose — in a Tweet, in song lyrics, or joking around with each other. We can even incorporate it into the name of a rap group. Sure, we may get disapproving glances, raised eyebrows, or confusion from white people, but that’s all. We have linguistic privilege to use a word that’s off-limits for everyone else.


Intra-racial privilege also keeps us from focusing on the fact that 97% of black Americans killed in the U.S. die at the hands of other black people. We minimize the impact and scope of black-on-black crime by insisting that law enforcement and other authority figures must be held to a higher standard. In doing so, we’re essentially downplaying violence against our own people. The reality is that when a black person is beaten, abused or killed, it’s no less damaging to their body and psyche if they share their assailant’s pigment. It’s still brutal, it still hurts like hell, and in Rock’s case, it’s also incredibly humiliating.


Imagine if Russell Crowe, a notorious hothead with a history of violent outbursts, had lumbered onstage and smacked Rock for making a joke about his wife. Can you picture the outrage? How long would it have taken for security to escort him from the theatre? How many black activists and white progressives would be calling for his head?


But that didn’t happen to Smith because he enjoys intra-racial privilege. He felt completely justified, and even entitled, in slapping a brother who offended his wife. After striking Rock, Smith even swaggered back to his seat, smug. Almost triumphant. A Tweet from Smith’s son, Jaden, perfectly captures this privilege: “And that’s how we do it.”


Smith’s race likely benefited him in another way that we’re even less inclined to talk about: Hollywood has become so hyper-sensitive to skin color that it’s loathe to punish or even speak poorly of a black person. Let’s call this inter-racial privilege. The response of his celebrity peers clearly illustrates this.


Smith wasn’t escorted from the theatre. There were murmurs of shock and “disappointment,” but he wasn’t booed. Incredibly, he later appeared onstage to accept his Oscar for best actor  and received applause, even though he didn’t bother to apologize to Rock during his speech. I’m not saying Smith should have been denied an award for his wonderful work in King Richard, but couldn’t the Academy have at least removed him from the Dolby Theatre and couriered the statuette to his home? He was even allowed to celebrate his Oscar win at the star-studded after-party (didn’t anyone have the courage to tell Smith he wasn’t welcomed at these festivities? Or were they too star-struck or woke to tell him to take a hike?)


No one expected Smith to be arrested. Since the incident was classified as a slap without the intent to do seriously bodily harm, and because Rock has refused to press charges, Smith won’t be prosecuted. But regardless of what the law requires, the question remains: what will Hollywood demand of him?


According to its code of conduct, released in 2017 following the sexual misconduct scandals that hit the industry, the Academy emphasizes the importance of fostering inclusion, supportive environments, and “respect for human dignity.”


The Academy has the power to send a clear message that it takes inclusion and human dignity seriously and to ensure that its members uphold these values. It could condemn Smith’s behavior in a pointed and personal way. It could suspend his membership. It could even ban him from attending Awards ceremonies for a period of time.


But Hollywood’s most elite club hasn’t taken any of these actions, at least so far. Instead, it sent a brief Tweet: “The Academy does not condone violence of any form.”


You broadcast an assault and battery in real time to millions of people, then allow the assailant to take to the stage to receive your industry’s highest honor, yet insist you don’t condone violence? In what world does this make sense?


But there’s another privilege at play here, and it’s one we really don’t like to talk about in America: class.


Social justice advocates often opine about how the intersection of race and class has disenfranchised untold numbers of black people, and this is unquestionably true. Black Americans are more likely to be born into the lower class than their white counterparts and suffer the cascading effects of poverty. And we all know that rich white people (especially men) enjoy a privilege that 99% of America doesn’t.


But Smith is showing us that race and class can also intersect in another way that benefits select members of the black community even more than rich white men.


If Smith were a poor black man or a poor white man, events would have played out a lot differently. His smack would likely be viewed as a punch intended to cause seriously harm, and he would have been arrested. And if he were rich and white, his career would likely go up in flames (witness Kevin Spacey, Matt Lauer and other wealthy white men accused of bad behavior).


But when you’re wealthy and black in America, you’re gifted with double privilege that insulates you from anything more than light shaming and a career speed bump. When you’re wealthy and black, it takes an awful lot to get “cancelled.”


That’s why Whoopi Goldberg could insult Jewish people on TV and be suspended from The View for just two weeks, while Roseanne Barr’s career was wiped from existence when she insulted a Valerie Jarrett, a black woman, in a Tweet.


That’s why it took three years for Jussie Smollett to be brought to justice for clearly fabricating a hate crime against himself (the prosecutor initially dropped charges after a former Michelle Obama aide reached out with “concerns” about how the case was being handled).



The message is clear: if you’re going to misbehave in America, you’d better have some privilege to back it up.


Yet Smith is even a cut above Goldberg, Smollett, and O.J. because he represents the most valuable commodity in woke America: race, class and power — in a deliciously handsome package. In other words, he enjoys triple privilege.


Smith is indisputably one of the most charismatic, wealthiest and powerful actors in Hollywood today. Wrapped in this package, elites will forgive his trespasses and forget his missteps — not just because the world is always kinder to good-looking people and because it “looks” bad for the Left to punish a black person, but also because Hollywood elites will be loathe to jeopardize the career of a blockbuster star who’s now vaulted himself to critical acclaim with an Oscar.


Armed with triple privilege, I think it’s unlikely Smith will get any meaningful comeuppance. He’ll probably lay low and avoid high profile public appearances for a while, waiting for the uproar to die down. He may not pursue any movie projects in the short-term. He may even lose a few projects and sponsors.


But his career won’t come to a screeching halt. Like Bill Cosby, a man worth $400 million who was able to sexually abuse women for three decades while Hollywood looked the other way, Smith is far too valuable to the industry.


Calls will be made, deals will be struck. Smith’s team has already released a well-crafted apology to Rock and the entertainment community. His publicists will do everything in their power to put this ugly episode in the rearview mirror, as if it never happened — just as Agent J wiped the memories of witnesses with the flash of a neuralyzer in Men in Black. I wouldn’t be surprised to see Smith in a well-placed photo opp with Rock in the coming months, joking it up like old pals do:“Yo, remember that time I bitch slapped you at the Oscars? That was some funny shit, dawg!”


Smith will be fine.


And that’s the problem. If the industry doesn’t cancel him or even punish him for his actions, there will be repercussions for all of us.


Hollywood has long been accused of hypocrisy, but its aggressive virtue signaling in recent years has left it especially vulnerable to these claims. Celebrities have gone to lengths to shame, ridicule, and condemn anyone who’s remotely insensitive or intolerant, even as powerful sexual predators like Cosby and Harvey Weinstein roamed freely among them.


If the industry now allows a man to commit assault and battery in the most public forum possible without serious repercussions, is it really in the position to keep virtue signaling? How can Hollywood expect others to take its message of inclusivity and equality seriously if it holds its most privileged members to a completely different standard of conduct? Reasonable people can’t help but ask: “Is this just a case of do as I say, not as I do?”


The black community must also reckon with its tepid response to Smith’s behavior. There’s been virtually no condemnation from its leaders, and celebrities like Sean “Diddy” Combs are doing their best to sweep the incident under the rug. Actress Tiffany Haddish even called Smith’s actions “the most beautiful thing I have ever seen” because it proved there are still men who “love and care about their women.”


Don’t get me wrong; the black community has a justifiable and vested interest in maintaining the best optics possible in high-profile incidents. We are, and should be, highly protective of our role models.


But if we don’t have the courage to shame Smith for egregiously bad behavior  —  the same way we would shame a white man who commits violence against one of our own — then we’re setting a dangerous double standard, in the most public way possible, that won’t advance the cause against racism. In fact, it could invite blowback in the future.


If black celebrities and leaders fail to vigorously condemn Smith, any reasonable white person will be justified in asking the obvious: do black people expect to be treated equal to, or better than white people? If the answer is the latter, that won’t bode well for race relations. We can’t seriously expect white people to believe that equality means double standards.


And here's the hardest pill to swallow: when black elites get a free pass for their misdeeds, it makes life harder for the rest of us, i.e. black people without money and power who won’t get off with light shaming. This double standard may create resentment and affect the way white people treat us. It could even lead to more racism — and unlike Smith and his peers, we won’t have the money and power to defend against it.


The irony is that the most vocal proponents for inclusion are missing something fundamental about our quest for equality: the best way to teach people is to lead by example. But we can’t possibly achieve equality for all Americans if people of different races and classes are held to different standards. Equality isn’t just about wearing a T-shirt, putting a sign in your yard, singing at a telethon, or marching in a protest. Equality means putting your money, deeds, and heart where your mouth is.


I hope Hollywood and black leaders choose wisely and do the right thing. But given what we’ve seen so far, I’m not holding my breath.


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Jeff McCarthy
Jeff McCarthy
01 abr 2022

I found this article through a link on Bari Weiss' substack where you were referred to a "black lesbian lawyer". Since I try to get different viewpoints on things I don't understand (and was trying to understand reactions to The Slap), I clicked on the link expecting an extreme woke viewpoint which would result in my quick exit. Not only did I end up reading the whole article, I also read all of the comments where you engaged, clarified, and added new info.


Your analysis was/is extremely insightful IMO. Further, you presented information that made so much sense including some that I don't necessarily agree with in a way that made me far more open to considering your ideas. And…


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Monica Harris
Monica Harris
01 abr 2022
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Jeff, I can't thank you enough for your thoughtful and supportive comments. They mean so much to me because I'm often berated for my opinions on race and class in America. As a former Democrat (who's now a political agnostic), I've lost and tested many relationships with some of my dearest friends because I've felt compelled to speak from my heart and with what I believe is common sense.


Your response was precisely the one I always hope to achieve in my writing: you may not agree with everything I've said, but the piece created a space for you to at least be open to a perspective you may not have considered before.


It's an honor to have you as…

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Tricia Brouk
Tricia Brouk
31 mar 2022

Thank you for your powerful and important point of view.

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Monica Harris
Monica Harris
01 abr 2022
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Thank you so much, Tricia. I really appreciate your feedback.

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Monica Harris
Monica Harris
31 mar 2022

For those who aren’t on Telegram, this is the update I posted today: What I love about this chat group is that we’re not afraid to question ANYTHING. That’s so incredibly refreshing and rare these days, and I just want to say I appreciate all of you for being such inquisitive and discerning minds. I hate to beat a dead horse with the Oscar smack, and many of you have pointed out – for very legitimate reasons – why this incident may have been staged. I think given everything we’ve seen in the past few years, literally anything is possible. That said, I’ve been reflecting on why this incident struck me so hard on a gut level and why I felt compelled to…

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victoria794
victoria794
30 mar 2022

I'm on the side of it's staged but I appreciate and agree with the rest of your message ie, this is a class issue as well as a divisive one. And a distraction.


Will is such an emasculated male and Jada clearly holds him in total disdain. So part of this may be Will trying to get his man-card back - at least in this script. He just looks even more effeminate with that weak finger slap and Rock looks even weaker standing there with his hands behind his back through the whole thing. Like, what happened to his natural defense instincts? This is about the ongoing emasculation of all men but black men in particular - and this is…

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François Joinneau
François Joinneau
30 mar 2022
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"Evolutionarily, we are in for a culling of epic proportions. "


Sadly yes, and more than you think !


"7 busses with Russian soldiers suffering from Acute Radiation Syndrome have arrived to a hospital in Belarus from the Chernobyl Exclusion Zone in Ukraine. They allegedly dug trenches in the highly radioactive Red Forest - UNIAN News Agency "


https://twitter.com/visegrad24/status/1509287796065845250?s=20&t=_GfcCLDY14rX3IVvmUD0Ig

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Recynd77
Recynd77
30 mar 2022

(Disclaimer: I watch the YouTuber Pockets of the Future, who essentially said the following; however, I think he’s right about this.)


The thing is, Jada can’t really stand Will—it’s so obvious by the way she looks every time he opens his mouth (I can’t say I blame her). She has said as much publicly. I’m not sure if he’s oblivious or just ignores her. And there are PLENTY of rumors that their marriage has never been about love.


Assuming the slap wasn’t staged, it was about something other than Jada’s honor. Distraction, maybe?


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Recynd77
Recynd77
31 mar 2022
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Yes, these were/are all Senate/Assembly bills, not Propositions for the voters. I checked each one before posting to verify their validity; I read that a couple were quietly pulled today. I wonder if they threw the most egregious in there (only to take them out for now) to look good for the midterm elections and to make those of us paying attention look like hysterics…wouldn’t be the first time. That CA Senator Richard Pan is an absolute menace. I don’t know how he could be a practicing anything, let alone a pediatrician (mostly vaccine-pushers anymore anyway—we stayed away from them as much as possible with Matt). Bad news, that one. I hope I didn’t lead anyone astray. These are…

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